Stories we have heard...




Wednesday, June 23, 1999 at 17:23:10 

Subject: BEING BI-RACIAL 

Story: HI. MY NAMES SHAN, I'M 18 YEARS OLD AND I'M BI-RACIAL. I AM SO GLAD THERE'S A SITE FOR BI-RACIAL COUPLES AND CHILDREN! I THINK BEING BI-RACIAL IS THE BEST THING IN THE WORLD! I'M NOT SAYING I HAVEN'T RUN INTO PROBLEMS BECAUSE OF IT, BUT I CAN SAY THAT IT HASN'T CHANGED ME AT ALL. BASICALLY BECAUSE I'M HAPPY WITH MYSELF AND THATS ALL THAT MATTERS.(AND BESIDES THAT, MOST OF MY WHITE FRIENDS ARE JEALOUS THAT I HAVE A YEAR ROUND TAN!) I BELIEVE I AM BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT AND IF PEOPLE CAN'T ACCEPT ME FOR WHO I AM, THEN I FEEL SORRY THAT THEY MISSED OUT ON A GREAT PERSON. I CAN'T CHANGE WHO I AM. BESIDES, I WOULDN'T WANT TO!
              P.S.- TO ALL THE BI-RACIAL CHILDREN OUT THERE-- KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH AND KEEP SMILING! BECAUSE YOU ARE TRULY BEUTIFUL-- DON'T EVER LET ANYONE TELL YOU DIFFERENT!! AND TO ALL THE INTERRACIAL COUPLES WHO ARE STICKING TOGETHER-- I SALUTE YOU, BECAUSE YOU ARE  WHAT'S PIECING AMERICA BACK TOGETHER AND BRINGING HARMONY TO THIS WORLD!!!! 
           LOVE ALWAYS

Comment: I LOVE THIS SITE!! KEEP IT UP AND THANK YOU FOR BRINGING INTERRACIALS TO MIND. KEEP GOD #1 AND ALL THINGS WILL WORK OUT 
   MUCH LOVE 

E-Mail: SHAN_B@HOTBOT.COM



Friday, May 21, 1999 at 19:28:32 

Subject: Interracial relationships 

Story: I am in an interracial relationship. I am white and my boyfriend is black. My parents totally disagree with this. They don't know that we are still together. But I'm trying to get all the information that I can on this issue so when it comes up again, I can just hand it over to them. If you have any information that would help, please send it! 

E-Mail: flounder_01@email.com



Monday, May 3, 1999 at 20:00:05
 

Subject: A huge supporter of interracial relationships 

Story: To whom it may concern: 
i am a daughter of a mother who is guatemalan and a father who is white. i found this experience to be very positive, because it led me to be more knowledgeable in both cultures. I am not only bilingual but I also am very informed aobut both sides.  I feel that although sometimes it was difficult, it are those difficulties that brought out family to this point.  I am currently a senior in high school and am researching this topic for my final. Along with my own experience i would like  to include other opinions and information. if you could contact me through e-mail i would greatly appreciate it.
sincerely,
april 

E-Mail: Guate1__81e@yahoo.com



Monday, April 19, 1999 at 23:09:32

Subject: Research on Interracial marriage and Biracial children 

Story: I would love to share my experiences, but that could take forever. Lets just say they've been good and bad... 

Comment: I think its great! Its an incredible resource for information about yourself or others like you. 

E-Mail: CuteNsexyAngel@Hotmail.com



Thursday, April 15, 1999 at 07:43:41 

Subject: SKIN COLOR 

Story: I HAVE RECENTLY LEARNED THAT MY BIOLOGICAL FATHER IS BLACK, I KNOW THAT SOUNDS LIKE IT WOULD BE PRETTY OBVIOUS BUT THE FACT IS I HAVE VERY WHITE SKIN AND RED CURLY HAIR. IT REALLY SURPRISED ME BECAUSE I NEVER KNEW WHO MY REAL FATHER WAS UNTIL JUST A COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO. I HAVE A FEW FEATURES OF AFRICAN AMERICANS BUT THAT WAS THE ONLY CLUE. THE ONLY THING I DONT UNDERSTAND IS WHY I AM SO PALE AND RED HEADED? 

E-Mail: HOOTIE80@AOL.COM



Saturday, April 10, 1999 at 17:46:45 

Subject: Interracial Dating 

Story: I am a twenty year old black female who prefers to date outside of my race.  I think that this organization is a great idea. Interracial couples need a place to meet other couples like themselves.  People judge mixed couples entirely too much.  This organization is a safe haven for people who need one in this hatred filled society.  Keep up the good work and God bless you all. 

Comment: It is wonderful! 



Wednesday, April 7, 1999 at 20:27:07 

Subject: Multi-Racial Parents

Story: I am a mixed black/white male who was raised in Florida/S.Georgia. I had a very difficult time as a child for the obvious reasons(zebra, oreo, etc.).  I have never totally identified with either of the cultures in my blood. Black people thought I was "acting" white and white people wanted nothing to do with me. It wasnt until I was in high school that I realized that I was not going to make any of these people happy because I had to be me(this is not an act, I am not acting!). I am fortunate to have and have had so many good friends of every conceivable ethnicity because I approached them as individuals and not stereotypes. I hope that the parents of some of the inter-racial children growing up today are able to instill the fact that their value is not based on another groups' opinions but on their actions and character, and that every person you meet must be treated as an individual who cannot be visually stereotyped into one class, race,religion, or culture. I feel that I am a better person for the trials I have had to face socially and internally and it is great to see people in the same situations and with the same experiences acting as support for people who haven't quite finished the trip. 
GOOD LUCK! 

Omar Kenney
201 Copeland Rd. AA9
Atlanta, GA. 30342 

Comment: Also, I am not interested in having Multi-racial on the census. I want to be treated as a human being. The census thing is not the problem, and getting Multi-racial on it is definately not going to make my life better. Is it going to make yours better? 



Monday, April 5, 1999 at 10:35:52

Subject: Interracial Couples 

Story: As a 20 year old black male I experience a lot of prejudice from my white girlfriends' family. Basically I'm glad to know there are people out there who I can  talk to about my problems. 

Comment: I think the IFSA site is wonderful 



Tuesday, March 16, 1999 at 13:31:13 

Subject: Racism towards interracial relationships 

Story:  I am looking for information on people who are against interracial relationships for a persuasive essay I am doing in school. Also, I am looking for any information on the benefits of interracial marriages. Any information would be great as soon as possible. Thank You! 

Comment: Very well put together. 

E-Mail: tptoddy@hotmail.com
 



Friday, March 5, 1999 at 10:23:02 

Story: I am absolutely delighted to learn of the existence of your group here in the Fort Worth/Dallas area.  My husband (white) and I (black) are proud parents of twin boys who will turn 13 years old next week. We have lived in several countries in Africa as well as three years in Mexico and are now completing our fifth year in Fort Worth.  I would like our sons to have the opportunity to meet other children with backgrounds similar to theirs and to see that the world is not quite so uni-dimensional (white) as it now appears.  Please do send more information about your organization, its meetings, publications, and members to us. 

E-Mail: d.pitts@tcu.edu



Wednesday, March 3, 1999 at 13:38:02 

Subject: Support Group 

Story: Hello, I would like to know if there are any support groups for parents of biracial children, particularly Black females in my area 
(Cincinnati/Kentucky). 

E-Mail: marks@nku.edu



Thursday, February 25, 1999 at 16:49:17 

Subject: Seattle 

Story: I would like to find something like this in the Seattle/Kirkland (WA)...any suggestions 

I am in a interracial marriage and have two mixed kids.  We have no problems, but my husband (black) was adopted by a white family...we would like to teach/know our children about their black heritage, but we know nothing about his family history.  Any suggestions?? 

E-Mail: troeseler@echc.org
 


Monday, February 15, 1999 at 10:07:35 

Subject: interracial couples 

Story: My name is Tai Leah. I haven't had any interracial experiences myself but I am doing a research paper on the issue itself.  From reading the comments of the others, I see that there are a lot of effects in being a part of thesetypes of relationships and there are also effects in being the product of an interracial relationship. I would really appreciate it if you could please send any information that you may have available.  Thank You!! 

Comment: For those of you who didn't know, there are magazines 
available on the internet for people who are involved in 
interracial marriages, dating, etc. 

E-Mail: tll5937@garnet.fsu.edu



Wednesday, February 10, 1999 at 12:14:26 

Subject: interracial dating service 

Comment: would it be possible to have a dating section where ppl of different races can find romance/dates/marriage? 
I've been looking all over the net for a penpalsite providing this but couldn't find any. 

E-Mail: donatello@chez.com


Wednesday, December 2, 1998 at 12:21:00 

Subject: Local chapter? 

Story:  We are in the area of Southeast Texas, Beaumont to be specific which is about 90 miles outside of Houston. 

E-Mail: kellie.rocio@ste.sch.org 


Monday, November 30, 1998 at 22:09:10 

Subject: interracial dating 

Story: I am white,and am dating a black man.  My parents really look down upon my decision.  They say that there are many reasons they don't want me dating him, but I believe if he was a different color they would not be so adement about the whole situation.  It's so frustrating!!!!!  I wish they were able to just look past his color.  They have many friends of various ethnicity, but, it is the dating and marriage aspect of interracial relationships that they disagree with.  They say that their main reason is the situation that the children are put into.  It's a very frustrating issue, and we just go round in circles, never coming to an understanding.  It's killing me! :( 

Comment: don't know much about it, this is the first time I've come in contact with it. 

E-Mail: lithgoa2@Salem.edu


Sunday, November 22, 1998 at 21:19:55 

Subject: Biracial Marriages--its effect on children 

Story: I am a student and currently making a report on the self-identity of biracial children. Hope I could get some materials/books to read from you. Please fax to 403-4665104. Thanks. 

from Manila 


Saturday, November 21, 1998 at 07:37:50 

Subject: mixed cultural 

Story: My name is LaToya and I'm 13 years old. My mother is white but my dad is black. I take more of the black part of me but my brother takes more of the white. I don't think there is anything wrong with mixing cultures, but sometimes when boys that like me get mad and start talking about me the first thing they'll say is "you zebra" or "oreo" but what they don't know is it doesn't matter to me cause they'll get what comes to them in the end. 

E-Mail: rufffamily@zebra.net


Friday, November 20, 1998 at 20:03:51 

Subject: "Real Families" documentary 

Story: Lifetime Television is currently in search of interracial couples and their extended families in the Los Angeles area to take part in a two week documentary pilot during the winter holidays.  We are looking for couples who plan to be married during the month of December and who are facing various social and cultural issues among their family members.  We at Lifetime find this to be an incredible opportunity to document such a significant issue that would define the dynamics of a Los Angeles family. 

In our attempt to reach and represent families who are currently dealing with this issue, we ask that you help in promoting this new and exciting project by posting the following URL on your website: 

http://www.bunim-murray.com/realfamilies

This will provide a direct link to the "Real Families" casting page for anyone who may be interested.  Or you can download and print out our website flyer for distribution if you so choose.  Selected families will receive monetary compensation for their stories.  If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to e-mail me at jdommisse@bunim-murray.com or contact me in our Van Nuys office. Thank you for your time. 
 

Janneke Dommisse 
"Real Families" Casting Assistant 
 

Real Families 
6007 Sepulveda Blvd. 
Van Nuys, CA  91411 
tel:   (818) 756-5245 
fax:  (818) 756-5140 
 

E-Mail: jdommisse@bunim-murray.com



Friday, November 20, 1998 at 17:16:26 

Subject: biracial children 

Story: I need some information on the effects that are on biracial children.  Like what kinds of problems they have with identity and things like that. I would really appreciate the information. If you can get me the information by Tuesday November 24 it would be great. Thank you! 

E-Mail: cbluck@hotmail.com



Tuesday, November 10, 1998 at 12:13:46 

Subject: me 

Story: my name is krissy hudgins.  i am a 21 year old female mixed black and white. i am a senior at st. mary's college of maryland and will graduate in may.  i have been struggling with identity issues all of my life and never realized that there were forums like this where people could share their concerns and questions.  i have grown up in a predominantly white environment which has always made me insecure.  my way of coping with my uncertainty of where i fit in has taken the form of research projects.  i have immersed myself in african and african american studies.  right now i am working on a paper dealing with mulattoes.  needless to say, it is hard to find a lot of information due to the one drop rule they/we are considered to be black.  i was wondering if you might be able to help me with statistics or maybe lead me to where i might find some.  if not i would simply like the chance to talk. 
 thank you. 

krissy 

E-Mail: kehudgins@osprey.smcm.edu



Thursday, October 29, 1998 at 11:05:24 

Subject: interracial relationships 

Story: Can you send me some stats concerning interracial relationships? I'm in a interracial relationship right now and am writing a paper concerning these kinds of relationships, I think they are right and would like some support. 

                                                Thanks, chicko 

E-Mail: freakochicko@hotmail.com



Tuesday, October 13, 1998 at 19:39:51 

Story: I am conducting research on interracial relationships; barriers, how to overcome them and the effects on friends and families.  Where can I find information to support this topic?  This is for a sociology course, Social Relationships and Emotions. 

Comment: I haven't reviewed it completely, but so far it looks great.  However, on the homepage it doesn't tell you how one can subscribe to the Rainbow Chronicle. (The newsletter)  I would love to. 

E-Mail: gailbuck8@aol.com
gailbuck@lacc.edu



Tuesday, September 22, 1998 at 13:56:45 

Subject: Appreciative! 

Story: Hi, 
Thank you for doing such a great job of getting the point across that interacial relationships are not wrong. I'm a biracial,(black, white, and indian) and I find that people that are most fun to be with are those who treat you with respect and honor. And if you are black, white, Chinese, Puerto Rican or Japanese, and do those things for you partner then you are special and worthy to be loved.  By the way I am 15 and I have a white boyfriend, only a week and a half now. Thanx a lot!!!!!! 

E-Mail: jade4ever_01@yahoo.com



Tuesday, September 22, 1998 at 13:17:16 

Subject: interracial dating on the college campus 

Story: Actually I'm conducting a research project dealing with interracial dating on college campuses.  I was just trying to see whether or not you may have some questions I could use to survey the student body in order to conduct my project.  I also wanted to know if you had any survey statistics. 

Thank you, 
you can contact me back at dgilchri@longwood.lwc.edu. 

Again thank you for your cooperation. 

E-Mail: dgilchri@longwood.lwc.edu



Monday, September 21, 1998 at 00:32:30 

Subject: RELOCATING 

Story: Hi, 

My family and I are interested in relocating to MINNESOTA. I understand that this state has a high population of interracial and intercultural families. Is this true? If this is true we are very much interested in making this move. What areas in this state are best for us? 

I am African-American and my husband is Turkish-American and we have a 9-month-old son. 

Could you please direct me to the right place for relocating information? 

Thank you, 

Mrs. A. 

E-Mail: ismrum@aol.com



Sunday, September 20, 1998 at 13:29:49 

Story: i am a 17 year old senior in a detroit school.  my aunt and uncle are a biracial couple and so that is the topic a chose for my research paper.  i've been looking all day for links so i could get information.  you guys have a complete list! thanks, it makes my job a LOT easier. 
blessings! 

E-Mail: janetzke9@juno.com



Monday, August 17, 1998 at 20:04:04 

Subject: School 

Story: I recently enrolled  my child at the local elementary school for kindergarten. On the regestration form provided by the school the only caterogies offered were ... White (not of Hispanic origin), Black, Hispanic, and Asian. I wrote in Bi-racial, and as a result was subsequently told by the school principal that our child could not be enrolled unless I chose a race. The registrar had apparently altered my form and wrote in white, so that the data could be submitted to the Texas Education Agency. When I voiced my displeasure over this, I was told I had the option of withdrawing my child from the school. I have complained in writing and by phone to the school, TEA, and my congressman. Have others encountered this problem?  What have they done about it?  I would really appreciate a response from you or someone in your group. I don't have a home computer, but I've been using the one at our local library. I can be reached at (218) 376-2971, 6118 Morningcrest, Spring ,TX 77389. 

Julie Slavick 



Sunday, August 16, 1998 at 01:52:53 

Subject: Info 

Story: I am a person, but society catorigizes me a single white female with an interracial (black/white) son.  I am interested in learning positive information and statistics about interracial relationships and raising an interracial child.  I would also like some suggestions from other interracial children on how I should go about instilling black heritage in my son's life.  If anyone has suggestions or information that they would like to share please e-mail me at vsynergy@cannet.com 

Comment: I think sites such as this one are remarkable!  I gather a lot of support, information, confidence and most of all hope from them.  Thank you for making them available! 

Marisa 

E-Mail: vsynergy@cannet.com
 



Monday, July 27, 1998 at 13:59:47 

Subject: why  cant we all get along 



Thursday, July 23, 1998 at 09:56:22 

Subject: Pittsburgh, PA chapter 

Story: We are seeking information to start a chapter here in Pittsburgh, PA.  Please forward me up-to-date telephone numbers and names of individuals I may speak with.  Thank you for your assistance.  Sandra Ford 

Comment: Unable to reach anyone by phone at this time.  Telephone companies tell me IFSA's number (214)559-6929 is no longer active as well as Joycelyn Damita's of Multi-Racial American's and Some Families telephone number. HELP... 

E-Mail: DB1@compuserve.com
 



Wednesday, July 8, 1998 at 23:13:34 

Subject: relationships 

Story: Okay, I'm 23 years old and can be officially classified as an African-American. I like to refer to myself as an American--just an American.  I never really had a problem with being "black" until high school.  As a child, my mother tells me, I said that we, my family, were "cafe but our faces are white." (Out of the mouths of babes.) 

My Mom also told me of an incident in preschool where this little black boy was telling all my friends not to play with me because I was black! She was told by the owner of the preschool that one minute we were standing side by side...she turned away for a second...she turned back and the little boy was on the ground.  Somehow I wish I could remember that. 

I have always gotten along with people but I will admit I have not gone out of my way for black people.  I realize now that I, somehow (I really don't know how), viewed myself as white. I have mainly been around white people, all my best friends have been white. I guess I just stopped seeing my skin color and viewed myself as what my surroundings reflected. Then came high scool. 

At a private, Christian high school in PA (I'm originally from Sacramento, CA) I met a black girl in my class.  She was/is darker than I am.  We got along pretty good, I thought.  Then in the 9th grade (I was there from 7-12th grade), I think, at lunch, she told me "You're not black. You're white, that's what my Mom told me."  I was floored.  I stumblingly told her that I was too black, but I don't think I did a very good job.  I had never, up to this point, set myself apart from people---I was just like all the other kids, so I thought. 

Down the road of Time....After two years of college I visit my mother's parents in CA over the summer.  They really impressed upon me that "...white people are white people are white people...." and that if they had to choose between me and some other white person, they would drop me like a hot potato.  Needless to say, I had become attracted to white guys and only white guys. I also had a large society of friends that were....yup you guessed it---white. 

This was devastating for me.  My grandparents are wonderful people and have seen/done many things in their lives.  I understand that they were only trying to take off those rose-colored glasses I was clinging to.  But they could have chosen a different way because since then I doubt myself, my friends and anyone else I come in contact with.  Every time I talk to my friends I start thinking to myself "Do they humour me because they pity the poor little BLACK girl?  Will they tell me this time that they no longer desire my friendship because I'm BLACK?"  I love my grandparents and my family but what they said hurt..deeply. 

I have since then come to an understanding with my friends who have said that the best friend is one that sticks with you through everything....which they have. I also have come to view black people, outside of my family, as being attractive people.  My family is my family and I will love them as long as I live. They have always been wonderful and supportive of everyone black or white (and my family does run from black to white). My concern now is, living in Texas (Plano to be exact), being in the South what would my reception be if I went out with a white gentleman? 

I am still very attracted to white men; though I can now see that black men can be attractive, I am not attracted to them.  I should, I guess, just wait and see what kind of man (whether tall, short, intelligent, sensitive, outgoing, shy, etc.) the Lord will send me and not concern myself about his skin  color, right?  Thank you for your time.  I'm sorry I took up so much room.  :)

If there is anyone who has any helpful hints I can use, please e-mail me. 

Comment: This site is excellent and I believe you will help and encourage a vast majority of people for the better. 

E-Mail: anaj@gateway.net



Wednesday, June 24, 1998 at 13:21:13 

Subject: Interracial dating, clubs 

Story: Hi. I am a SBF 30 years old and I have three kids; two are by a white guy. And I am so attracted to white men but I don't know where to meet them and it's tearing me apart. I need to find out where I can meet white men who are looking for a serious one-on-one relationship and who, like me, think black and white look beautiful together. I think there needs to be more interracial dating services in New York as well as any other state. I always stay home because I don't know where to go to find white men who love to date black women. 

E-Mail: lwa9921602@aol.com



Sunday, May 31, 1998 at 19:38:14 

Subject: Biracial Jews 

Story: I am very pleased and maintain my strong optimism that there are sites on the net such as this.  I have three beautiful sons and the two older ones attend a Jewish Day school.  Obviously, there are not many families that can relate to our unusual blend of cultures.  I would love to hear from other Jewish-Black families who are involved in both cultures. 

E-Mail: PhDWanaB@aol.com



Thursday, May 28, 1998 at 14:58:33 

Subject: I need people like me 

Story: I am a multiracial teen living in Houston. I get along with people of all races. And I rarely have problems with prejudice, racisim, or bigotry. But, lately I've been a very lonely person. I'm finding myself to be desperate in the search of "mixed" people to befriend. Yes, I do know tons of interracial people but all of the ones I know "choose sides." There is nothing wrong with allowing one side of the mixture to dominate and I don't hold anything against them. It's just that I don't choose and I hoping to find friends here in Houston that don't either. I was wondering if someone could send me some info. on any organizations here in H-town or help me contact individuals. 

Thanx 4 your time! 
Tiffany Kowalski 16 

Comment: The site was great! 

E-Mail: intrepid@argohouston.com



Tuesday, April 29, 1998 at 22:32 

Subject: Interracial Relationship Research 

Hello, 
My name is Courtney Webber.  I am currently a junior attending Bethlehem Baptist Christian Academy, in Fairfax, VA.  My inquiries arise primarily because I am doing a research paper on interracial relationships, but also because the controversial topic is of interest to me.  I am a multiracial child of an interracial relationship and would like to participate in any activities that your organization might be having in the D.C. Metropolitan area. Your time and cooperation has been greatly appreciated. I look forward to hearing from you soon.  Thanx again. 

Courtney Webber 

E-mail: Peeches446@aol.com



Monday, April 27, 1998 at 22:55:04 

Subject: resources for biracial children 

Story: I'm looking for all sources of media for work with biracial children (books, story books, videos, computer resources, films, etc.) I'm particularly interested in all forms of media that present biracial issues with asians as I have relatives with this background. 

Thank you -- you are providing a valuable service. 

E-Mail: rahn@ucla.edu



Thursday, April 23, 1998 at 00:14:28 

Subject: IFSA 

Story: My husband Mike and I lived in The Colony, TX until 1995.  We now live in the Sacramento area of CA.  We used to attend IFSA and found it to be a rewarding experience.  We have missed the kind of unique friendships that we shared while living in the DFW area.  On occasion we visit our married son, Matthew, who lives and works in Lewisville.  It would be good to get back in touch with some of our old friends.  If anyone would like to contact us our email is mdgordon@jps.net.  I was happy to see you on the internet. 

Comment: Your site is good.  I was impressed. 

E-Mail: mdgordon@jps.net
 



Tuesday, April 21, 1998 at 13:41:22 

Subject: intercultural marriage 

Story: I don't have any experiences, I was just looking for some information about intercultural marriages and some conflicts present in the relationships.  I was interested in finding out the difficulties couples face in terms of language or difficulties of children growing up and adapting for both cultures.  If you can help me, I would really appreciate it. 

If you have any information please send it to: 
hailelult@telecom.net.et

Thanks. 
Selam 

E-Mail: hailelult@telecom.net.et



Sunday, March 29, 1998 at 19:33:05 

Subject: Interracial Art 

Story:  I have been with my husband for the past 14 years, and we have three beautiful children together.  At first, some members of each of our families were not supportive.  My sister, especially, did not support my decision to marry my husband.  She thought that because he is Black and I am White that we would not be able to have a successful or productive life.  (She cried loudly throughout our wedding, which was extremely embarrassing.) 

Anyway, she got engaged to what she thought would be the perfect husband. He was white, college-educated, tall, and what she considered handsome.  She thought all of these things were what really mattered in life. All I thought about when I married my husband was the deep love we had for each other, and still have today.  I did not look at the color of his skin, or how much money he made, or the material things in life.  I love him for HIM, and don't think of him as my "black" husband.  I just think of him as the love of my life.  To make a long story short (maybe it's too late for that), she is now divorced, due to the fact that her husband is an alcoholic, a wife-beater, and has been cheating on her on and off for the past 10 years.  (His first affair was in the first year of marriage.) 

The irony in this is that my husband and I are still together and more in love than ever.  My husband did not graduate from college, and is not who SHE thought I should marry, but we enjoy the same activities, agree in the raising of our children, our beliefs and ideals in life, and we are more in synch than any other couple we know now or have ever known. (We even finish each other's sentences!)  We both truly believe we were destined for each other. Our motto for life is "LOVE HAS NO COLOR."  Love is not about what race a person is.  It has to come from the heart. (Another ironic fact is that although my sister's ex-husband was college-educated, my husband, through hard work and determination, now makes over $50,000 per year, over twice as much as my sister's ex!) We have just built our dream house together and are searching for interracial art, such as paintings and sculptures, that express our love for each other and our beautiful family.  If anyone has information on interracial art, please E-mail me at TLMB88@aol.com.  Any help would be GREATLY APPRECIATED! Thank you. 

Comment: I think this is a great website.  It is a refreshing change from what usually comes up when you search for information about interracial couples.  (Unfortunately, it is usually pornographic. When will people understand that this is not a sideshow? It's just life...) 

E-Mail: TLMB88@aol.com



Tuesday, March 17, 1998 at 20:09:31 

Subject: Interracial Support Group 

Story: I moved to San Antonio, TX recently and would like to know whether there is an Interracial support group here.  Will welcome all information. 
jan 

Comment: I think this is a wonderful way to communicate with other who have something in common. 

E-Mail: jhoutsma@mail.txdirect.net



Friday, February 20, 1998 at 10:07:28 

Subject: interracial relationships 

Story: I am a student at the University Of Indianapolis, Indiana, and I am writing a paper on this subject.  I need different views on both sides of the issue.  If you could help, I would appreciate it.  You can e-mail me at walshrk@uindy.edu.  Thanks for all your help. 
 

Sincerely 
Renee Walsh 



Sunday, February 1, 1998 at 16:10:24 

Subject: Newsletter 

Story: I am a member of an interracial group in Atlanta, GA called the Interracial Family Alliance.  We trade newletters with many other interracial groups across the country.  I wondered if it would be possible to add us to your mailing list and we will add you to ours.  I have found lots of good information and resources from reviewing the other newsletters.  Our address is Interracial Family Alliance, PO BOX 450473, 
Atlanta, GA 31145. 

Thanks! 

E-Mail: jcr2@cdc.gov



Thursday, January 8, 1998 at 14:01:03 

Subject: Support 

Story: I'm glad to find resources such as yours available.  I live in Lynchburg, VA and unforunately 
programs like this don't exist in this area. 

Comment: Wonderful Idea!!! 


Wednesday, December 31, 1997 at 23:50:37 

Subject: Why are people this way? 

Story: Hi. I am a black woman married to a white man; we've been together almost 4 years. I have never met his parents because they told him they don't want to meet me. I could see if I robbed them or mistreated their son just because i am black. It really hurts. 

My husband just celebrated his 30 birthday. They did not even send him a card or call him. Christmas is the same way. My mother does not acccept mixed couples but she loves my husband to death. I want to have a baby one day, but the only thing is they won't know the white side of their family. 

My husband is in the military and we are stationed in a small town in Georgia (very racist). To me I find most of my problems with the black people. They'll stare and make comments. 

We're at the point that if we go anywhere, we go on our own like to the mall. We don't go to any clubs; we'll go to movies. Are there any groups in Savannah, Georgia?  We don't live in Savannah but that is the nearest place to us. 

E-Mail: banktz@clds.net



Thursday, December 18, 1997 at 21:30:52 

Subject: Local meetings in PA 

Story: Hi....I was wondering if you know of interracial/biracial groups in the Philadelphia area. Any info you could provide would be great.  My email address is mark507@aol.com 

Comment: I think it's great!!!! 

E-Mail: mark507@aol.com



Saturday, December 6, 1997 at 14:56:19 

Subject: My bi-racial daughter, Alexandria 

Story: In August of this year, I had a baby girl, Alexandria.  I am a white female and her father is black male.  It has been extremely hard for everyone involved.  However, I have learned quickly that laughter is the best medicine. 
It seems that even my daughter, who is 3 months, is already having racist comments thrown her way.  I know that if I beat up everyone who said something about her, it wouldn't be solving anything.  So when we're out and people are staring at her I usually go up and ask them if they want a closer look and tell them how old she is, etc.  If they're making comments at her, I usually go up to the people and ask them what race they are.  It's amazing how many of them don't even know their heritage.  or they will say they're Indian and Irish mixed.  That's when I say, "Oh, so you're a bi-racial person, also.  It's nice to meet you." 
I love bi-racial children.  They have the best of both worlds.  I cannot wait to watch and learn from my child and the children around us.  Hopefully one day there will be no problem with me loving a beautiful black man, but for now I will just keep on laughing and educating myself. 

Sincerely, 

Jessica Hart 
Fayetteville, ARKANSAS 



Tuesday, November 25, 1997 at 11:34:47 

Story: Hi.  My interracial family lives in Grinnell, Iowa.  We are interested in finding an organization similar to yours.  Could you please advise us if Iowa has an organization or who I should contact.  Thanks. 

Comment: This is my first time in the IFSA site.  I found it informative.   I will visit this site again. 

E-Mail: jasons@pcpartner.net



Thursday, November 13, 1997 at 14:21:55 

Story: I HAVE BEEN DATING A REALLY GREAT GUY AND WE HAVE RECENTLY BECOME ENGAGED. THE ONLY PROBLEM IS THAT HE IS BLACK (I AM WHITE). MOST OF MY FAMILY IS HAVING A HARD TIME ACCEPTING THIS, BUT I JUST WANT THEM TO UNDERSTAND THAT I AM REALLY HAPPY AND THAT IS WHAT SHOULD MATTER. MY FATHER LIKES MY FIANCE BUT SAYS THAT HE IS AFRAID OF HOW I WILL BE LOOKED AT BY SOCIETY.  I SAY THAT I'M NOT THE ONE DOING ANYTHING WRONG, THE ONE WHO WRONGLY JUDGES ME IS. I BELIEVE THAT GOD MADE US DIFFERENT COLORS AS A TEST TO SEE HOW WE WILL TREAT EACH OTHER.  IT JUST REALLY UPSETS ME THAT SO MANY PEOPLE ARE FAILING THE TEST.  IF WE WERE ALL THE SAME RACE AND COLOR THEN PEOPLE WOULD STIIL FIND SOMETHING TO JUDGE OTHERS BY.  IF I LIVE MY LIFE TRYING TO PLEASE SOCIETY THEN I WILL BE MISERABLE.  I AM ALSO WORKING ON A RESARCH PAPER ON WHY INTERRACIAL MARRIAGES SHOULD NOT BE CONDEMNED BY SOCIETY AND MY MAIN FOCUS IS THAT THE IDEA OF ANY "PURE RACE" IN AMERICA IS NOTHING MORE THAN A MYTH.  I ADMIT THAT BEING IN AN INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIP IS NOT EASY, BUT WHAT RELATIONSHIP IS?  I JUST HAVE TO TAKE EVERYTHING ONE DAY AT A TIME AND TRUST THAT THE LORD BE WITH US ALWAYS TO HELP US THROUGH WHATEVER OBSTACLES WE MAY FACE.   I WOULD LIKE TO CORRESPOND THROUGH E-MAIL AND MAIL WITH OTHER PEOPLE THAT ARE IN SIMILAR SITUATIONS. 
I BELIEVE THAT IT HELPS TO KNOW HOW DIFFERENT PEOPLE HANDLE THE SITUATION.  PLEASE E-MAIL ME AT MAA4607@USL.EDU 
OR WRITE  MELODIE ARCENEAUX 
               USL BOX 43045 
               LAFAYETTE,LA 70504 

PLEASE IF YOU FIND THAT YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO HAPPENS TO BE OF A DIFFERENT RACE, DO NOT LET ANYONE STAND IN YOUR  WAY--JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND TRUST IN GOD TO BE WITH YOU AND YOU WILL FIND TRUE HAPPINESS. 

E-Mail: maa4607@usl.edu



Wednesday, November 12, 1997 at 14:57:18 

Story: To whom it may concern: 

My name is Michelle Muse. Me and my fiance' are a mixed couple who lives in Augusta, Ga.  Every time we walk down the street together people don't do nothing but stare at us, especially white people.  They look so hard that if they turned their neck any further then they would end up breaking their neck. 

What I am saying is people should be able to be with whomever they please to be with, whether they are black, white,  blue or yellow, as long as those two people are happy with each other.  Another thing we all have to remember is their ignorance is what keeps us strong and together.  Please let me know what you would do if this were you. 

                                         Thank you 

E-Mail: quientina@hotmail.com



Sunday, November 9, 1997 at 16:27:37 

Subject: HELP! RESEARCH 

Story: I attend Baylor University, and I am in a Race and Ethnic Realtions course. We have a research paper due in December, and I was assigned Biracial children and how they are viewed by society.  If you have any information or anything you could send me, whether it is an article or a book that Baylor might carry, I would appreciate it. 

E-Mail: Kacy_Moffitt@baylor.edu



Saturday, October 25, 1997 at 15:51:26 

Subject: Interracial Groups 

Story: Hello, our Interracial family resides in Greenville, SC.  We are interested in finding and being a part of an organization such as yours.  Please advise us of the nearest such organization(s). 

Comment: This is my first time visiting the site.  After a brief tour, I am impressed and will visit again soon. 

E-Mail: benstew@aol.com



Thursday, October 23, 1997 at 08:45:37 

Subject: me about women 

Story: I think that we should love someone even if they are different than us because that shows how much you care about yourself and someone else that is not like you. 



Tuesday, October 21, 1997 at 12:12:00 

Subject: Interracial Families 

Story: Hi, our Interracial family is in Indianapolis, In.  I wish there was an organization such as this in our area.  Do you know of any such organization located in the Indianapolis area?  If so, could you please mail any information you have available to The Guthrie Family, 8439 E. 37th Pl. Indianapolis, IN    46219.  It would be a great thing for our children to meet others growing up in the same environment. Thanks. 

E-Mail: Ruth_Guthrie@HMCO



Thursday, October 9, 1997 at 14:31:39 

Subject: Help Help Help 

Story: I am currently doing a research paper on interracial marriages.  I need to know many factors that have caused the rates of interracial marriages to increase (examples: Vietnam war, civil rights movement, etc.).  Please help me.  Thank you for your time. 

E-Mail: llu@iusb.edu


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